This is a quote from Don Juan Matus in Carlos Castaneda’s book Journey to Ixtlan. That book is incredibly wild and imaginative but also very wise.
Personal history is what shapes our expectations regarding other people. Why do we get so much more mad when one person does one thing but not when another person does the same thing? We pigeonhole ourselves and each other into roles and those roles confine us, not just in terms of how we are seen and see but also how we act and are treated.
Whenever you meet up with someone, a friend, a sibling, a parent, we “catch up.” During that time, we are supposed to tell each other everything important that has happened since the last meeting. It is from that disclosure that they then construct a sense of who we are still. This is an example of renewing personal history. It fabricates a sense of continuity.
I have a friend who very naturally evades personal history. I have no idea when he goes away for vacation, when he gets a new job, if he’s dating a new girl, if he and his girlfriend broke up, and so on. It seems like he plays his cards close to the vest but he’s a very open guy. However, he’s got this trickster vibe to him and he evades taking anything too seriously.
Sometimes we meet up with certain people and feel the need to tell them EVERYTHING. Best-friends, significant others, parents, whatever. Again, we are trying to renew our personal history to give ourselves a stronger sense of identity.
Have you ever felt like you couldn’t do something because you are you? That you couldn’t get away with wearing something, going somewhere, saying “hi” to a certain stranger, because you just aren’t that kind of person? Those are the kinds of confines personal history creates. You could also call it active karma, the ideas and judgments from your past that obscure and limit the possibilities of the present.
Of course those limits aren’t real, they’re a story you keep telling yourself and others. I catch myself doing it all the time.
Here is the rest of that quote: “It is best to erase all personal history because that makes us free from the encumbering thoughts of other people. I have, little by little, created a fog around me and my life. And now nobody knows for sure who I am or what I do. Not even I. How can I know who I am, when I am all this?”
Be the person you are. Never try to be another, and you will become mature. Maturity is accepting the responsibility of being oneself, whatsoever the cost. Risking all to be oneself, that’s what maturity is all about.
Maturity in real sense
When we meet real tragedy in life, we can react in two ways—either by losing hope and falling into self-destructive habits, or by using the challenge to find our inner strength.
Should be imbibed!!
My teacher always said that forgiving was not an act, but an inner state. Similar to light that falls upon whatever comes in front of it, when we are in a state of forgiving, we forgive anyone, without any judgment. We use the term ‘I have forgiven’; my teacher used to say that the ‘I’ cannot forgive. Forgiveness can only be brought about with the dissolution of ego.
For us, forgiving is an act. We must strive to practice as often as we can. If we can observe ourselves a little, we will see how easily we take offense at the smallest provocation. We feel hurt and resent being criticized. Say, a child may feel s/he is not being appreciated, a husband may feel that his wife does not understand him, an employee may feel that his boss is overworking him, and so on. We also feel someone has been disloyal to us. We hold on to many grudges, which are like open wounds in the subconscious.
We continuously hold tension, remain volatile and angry, slowly leading to a neurotic state where our minds chatter all the time, narrow our perception, make us rigid, sour, bitter, revengeful, jealous, moody, and fatigued. This not only ruins our psychological health, but over a period of time also affects our physical well-being. Once we are in a highly strung-up state, we get caught in everything that does not go our way, in turn leading to irritation and holding a constant resentment that life is not fair.
Forgiveness is a conscious decision to let go of such resentment; to drop the act or the grudge that we are holding, to relax from within and enjoy letting go of the burden. Whenever we feel hurt, just pause, weigh the grievance, see the damage it will cause us, and will it away. We do not need to excuse or condone the act, we just forgive the other.
Keep Well, Keep Smiling…………………….!!
ONE DAY I DECIDED TO QUIT
I quit my job,
I wanted to quit my life.
I went to the woods to have one last talk with god
“God”, I asked,
“Can you give me one good reason not to quit?”.
His answer surprised me…
“Look around”, He said. “Do you see the fern and the bamboo ?
“Yes”, I replied.
“When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them.
I gave them light. I gave them water.The fern quickly grew from the earth.
Its brilliant green covered the floor.Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.
In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful.
And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.
“In year three there was still nothing from the bamboo seed.But I would not quit.
In year four, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. I would not quit.” He said.
“Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant…But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall.
It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive.
I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle.”
He asked me. “Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots”.
“I would not quit on the bamboo.I will never quit on you.”
“Don’t compare yourself to others.” He said.
”The bamboo had a different Purpose than the fern.
Yet they both make the forest beautiful.”
"Your time will come”, God said to me.
“You will rise high”.
“How high should I rise?” I asked.
“How high will the bamboo rise?” He asked in return.
“As high as it can?” I questioned.
”Yes.” He said, “Give Me glory by rising as high as you can.”
I left the forest and brought back this story.
Never, Never, Never, Give up!!
“In life, each relationship will have feelings and differences. ….it’s Always better to be melted in feelings than to be frozen with differences”.
Don’t just have career or academic goals.
Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life.
Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order.
There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup.
There is no fun in driving a car if your back hurts.
Shopping is not enjoyable if your mind is full of tensions.
Don’t take life seriously.
Life is not meant to be taken seriously, as we are really temporary here.
We are like a prepaid card with limited validity.
If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years.
And 50 years is just 2,500 weekends.
Do we really need to get so worked up? …
It’s OK, Bunk few classes, score low in couple of papers, take leave from work, fall in love, fight a little with ur spouse… It’s ok…
We are people, not programmed devices..!
"Don’t be serious, enjoy Life as it comes"….😃
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